Saturday 2 April 2016

Break Ups for B | A to Z April 2016 Challenge

We fail to see beauty in the so called imperfections.

I came across one of the most awkward reasons of breaking up. 

It was when someone told me that I broke up with my the then girlfriend after watching Om Shanti Om. I saw Deepika Padukone and I wanted someone like her. Not like the one who was sitting next to me when I was watching On Shanti On.

I was like, wait what? I was thinking about what the girl must have gone through on knowing the reason for her getting dumped. I felt a little sad for her and strongly believe that she deserved better. It was upsetting to me, because I have always believed that relationships are never about looks, they are about the connections you form with a person. However, I do not blame those who relate with this story because that's what is the major-i-tarian normal. 

Not all break ups are stupid, some are very well designed - reasons being inconsistency, disrespect, insensitivity, been taken for granted... The moment you sense it, move on! You do not deserve such treatment. 

Have you or someone you know ever broken up with someone for really odd reason? Drop it in comments.

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Now I would like to come back to the topic. The break up reason was very immature. Or perhaps points at a shallow desire to get what we want rather than a mature approach of nurturing what we have. We are often not content with what we get and end up finding flaws in no matter how amazing connection we form out of our existing relationship. We hold on to past or certain traits we always wanted in the person we should be with - and some of them are physical. There we fall a victim of a vicious cycle of getting into it a new relationship and then falling out of it because the relationship-test did not go well. In that process we are not just selfish but cruel to those we leave behind. If someone protests ill-treatment we take it as a protest towards the way we are supposed to fall for someone. And object at someone being true to their individuality.

Oh no.. Thats now how it was meant to be. It was supposed to be someone with perfect fearutes, figure, and best a muted doll. No matter what a loser I am but the girl should be ideal. Or no matter how nosey the woman in the relationship is the guy should be naive. And we keep struggling with seeking acceptance of the society's shallow standards. Even if there are numerous moments of extremely beautiful connection. We end up bringing reasons to fall apart. 

Accept the person for what they are. 



Author's Note: Break ups are tough, but when they happen over immature reasons, the entire relationship appears to be a waste of time and effort! Well about this post, it was a day off but nonetheless busy. So I wrote it while on a metro ride. 

Waiting to read odd reasons to break up in the comments section...

9 comments:

  1. The hypocrite ways of people. So well written post. Agree with you a person should be loved if there is a connection and not because of their plastic doll features. Because plastic, it stays for long may be but it doesnt have a fragarance.
    Btw really Om Shanti Om 😳 That is the most bizzare reason of breakup I have read so far...

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  2. Breakups ~ To be honest, I tell younger lot around me that it is worth going through couple of breakups in life, they mature you as a person!! But have never come across such a silly reason...I do know one person who says that his wife had destroyed his career, though they still sail along!!

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  3. Breakups can be very hard and I really liked your take on it here. Great B!

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  4. I was always scared of break ups that I dared not get into a relationship. I got into an arranged marriage and I took enough courtship to judge my fiance. I'm now into a successful relationship.

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  5. It's way better that the guy broke after watching om Shanthini om than playing around and making the girl feel reduced. And yes, the girl deserved better. Such ppl will realize life the hard way.

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  6. It's way better that the guy broke after watching om Shanthini om than playing around and making the girl feel reduced. And yes, the girl deserved better. Such ppl will realize life the hard way.

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  7. I was always scared of break ups that I dared not get into a relationship. I got into an arranged marriage and I took enough courtship to judge my fiance. I'm now into a successful relationship.

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  8. Such form of break-ups are plain ridiculous but I feel it's an excuse. Sometimes, when a relationship is not working, it's better to call it quit. A complex debate, though!!

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  9. That was a pretty darn interesting topic to write on for B. And yes, break ups are sad and they are bad and I am so glad that I'm done with that phase. Now when I think of those times, I feel I don't have the energy to go through all of it and it's always so good to walk out free, isn't it?

    Cheers
    Geets

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