Kai Po Che - Checked!

Many a times you come out of the theatre, wondering if this is what you expected of the movie. For Kai Po Che, I knew how it would shape - It was a revival of Chetan Bhagat's Novel - The Three Mistakes of My Life. However there is difference in my visualisation and the way a director projects it when a novel is scripted in a movie.

There was a revival of one more thing from the past. It being Abhishek Kapoor's directorial venture, and coming from my experience of Rock On, I had high hopes from this movie, which were met. Movies around sports mostly do well in our country, remember Chak De, Iqbal, Lagaan, and.... please go on to google search for more.

Kai Po Che has a pinch of everything: friendship, love, hatred, violence, enmity, loss, passion, aspirations, risk, entrepreneurship, regret, and much more. All in all, this is more than a one time watch, yes because of the story line and for the visuals captured. I simply wanted to jump off the cliff with them when the three best buddies had a gala time on a Sunday and yes not to forget mentioning a car drive on a wagon (''o). You have got to watch it to know it. However, the only thing I did not understand was why this name?

On a serious note: While we keep calling a neighbouring country as a source of infiltrating terror, which obviously is wrong, there is a more serious situation here - terrorism breeding in the name of Hindutva. And now with the elections coming in 2014, BJP is on an image cleaning spree, I am happy if the political party has learnt a lesson, for not been able to come to power during the last two General Elections.

P.S.: I wish after watching this movie people will stop justifying violence during the Gujarat riots, as a counteraction for sympathising with those who were killed in Sabarmati Express attack (official count 40). People who were killed in riots (official count 2000) were not the ones who attached the train.

Author's Note: Stop Religious profiling, and it will start with neither BJP nor Congress but you!

Beware - Male Chauvinist Around

If you are a man and I call you a Male Chauvinist Pig, what will you understand of it? Would you, in the first place, get an idea of it?

I have found a stark contrast in the mentality of some educated men who can be totally balanced against the mentality of an abusive alcoholic husband. Both the categories fall in the segment of Male Chauvinist Pig.  Here comes what I have picked up about Male Chauvinist Pigs from my experience so far:

He lacks chivalry: He might have got together a few acts to impress you - he held the door for you while entering a restaurant. But what counts is if he will hold it while you exit.

He gives False Hopes: Knowingly he might give someone false hopes and wrong signals. And then suddenly tell you that I am confused!

He crosses the limits you set: If you have been setting limits, and he intrudes that space, then it is taken that he is a loser. A real man will allow a woman to go by her heart, and there can never be a case when one does not know one's limits - not just in action but also while talking.

Show-off runs in his blood: He has all the stuff to show off to the world, and ultimately would want to make you into a Barbie doll and flaunt you around. The day you gain weight, he will leave you!

Will be your appointed critic: He will tell you that you are wrong, either out-rightly or drop mild clues, almost for every action of your. He would criticize and say that since you are close he needs to tell you. He  will decide how many breaths you should take in an hour!

If you have noticed these clues in your boy, get your mind together girl, he can be a total mamma's boy. It is not that being a mamma's boy is wrong, but he will from the very start work towards building a fear in you about his mommy, just to indicate that you have to please her and be her slave. His mommy might not be bad.

For every argument that you will have with him, he might leave you in a state of big dilemma, totally making you feel sorry and get back to him. Rethink about it, do you really want to be with someone who wants to change you, who does not give you space to grow as an individual, but as an abla naari, who just cannot do without a man next to her.

P.S.: My friendly, unfriendly, no-more-friendly and Blocked being friendly encounters have taught me this. Although most of the times I get along well with guys, but the Chauvinists just pester me off, they are the Male Janaanis (Punjabi word for over-analytical women).

Author's Note: An abusive alcoholic man is better than an educated man with such a mental structure, for the reasons that he is honest with his mentality  and expresses it bluntly. An abusive alcoholic man can still be treated with psychological intervention, but hopes for a Male Chauvinist Pig are too bleak.

From necessity to insanity

From necessity to insanity is becoming the mother of all inventions. 

It starts when the few avail the first mover advantage, and then you find many people with it, and the worse of all is to find a cheap version of it. Hope you can relate with it.

Micromax A100 - I hate the ideator of this handset, infact, no thinking has gone into it , it is a copy paste of Samsung Galaxy series. Even Samsung has been so upset that it was quick to counter the competition with  Micromax A100  (a 10 grands handset) by launching Samsung Grand Duos (costing 21 grands), keeping quality and brand in perspective.

Isn't it insane that someone creates a product, and others insanely copy it. and yes, it is very much in context of the reason for which Apple sued Samsung.

The problem emerges when you are a proud owner of a Samsung Note 1.

And one fine day - your colleagues walk upto you, wanting to see your mobile. Suddenly you see a that as one of your colleagues held your phone in one of his hands, he held a similar phone in his other hand. Perturbed! I found out that Micromax has launched a phone to compete with Samsung Note.

The embarrassment continues when your best friend's husband calls and interrogates about your Handset, with ofcourse an intent to bring Micromax in the discussion!

Suddenly my handset lost all the admiration, except for from special few, and that totally includes me, who is truely, madly, deeply in love with my baby, my Note <3 ...="" p="">
With this post I declare my enmity towards Micromax, I pray to god that he gives Samsung the will and wisdom to sue Micromax.

Author's Note: Necessity is driving people to insanity. It depends on your outlook - would you call Facebook insane or something you can't do without (typically the case with me)?

Heights of Heels

All my childhood, I was let down by snooty loud mouthed aunties and specifically relatives, that I am short. As a child, it made me feel that I have something amiss in me. The day I went to college, was the day I noticed that I was never short, I was a height of an average Indian female - I stand around 5'2".

There are a lot of interesting things that happen to people who wish to stand taller than they originally are. Nothing is wrong in wearing a heel, it lifts you a little higher, makes you feel feminine, but it can also give you a shoe bite, or a foot pain besides being something that makes you uncomfortable. But the worse of all is - picture this - a girl with all the confidence walks with her high heels on a busy street and suddenly you cannot see her.

She just tripped - somebody will give her a hand to get up, ask if she is alright, and some might blast laughing at the scene. But there is something that is happening deep in the girl who just tripped. It tells her - told you not to get high, and be what you are - smile graciously or may be laugh at it (as long as you did not fall with nose hitting the floor) and get up!

P.S: No matter how tall or short you stand, how obese or anorexic you are, no matter if you don't fall in the conventional matrix of - fair, beautiful, slim girl or a tall, dark, handsome boy, know that you are unique and not a carbon copy of someone. People (like the laughing passer by) have all sorts of comments to make, to bruise your esteem, but that reflects on them, not on you.

Author's Note: Start accepting the way you are, the world will envy you for your differences. 

29 December - National Shame Day (India)

Six men brutally raped, battered a 23 year old girl and and her male friend. To know more about the case, Click Here>>

India fights back for justice and safety of every girl. That led to insensitive remarks rolled out by sexist politicians, which I strongly believe is representative of what the society thinks. President's son's remark - painted and dented women are protesting, which led a row amongst activists.

As a crisis management exercise the girl's body was moved to Singapore, where she died experiencing two cardiac arrests in the air ambulance.

Despite promulgation of section 144 and 66 A, protests continue in New Delhi and on social media, to go on till the time she finds justice.

Today I don't have words to express my anguish!

Amid all this drama, we need to discuss the gravity of the crime? my question is how would you define justice in this case? Hang them is the most common phrase on the placards held by protesters. But is it justice delivered? Whatever the verdict be, it should set an example for all.

The Government, the society, the attitude, the crime, the people, the rapists are all a part of us. Look inside and find how have you been a party to such crime? Have you accepted an attempt by a passer by to brush past you or have you fought for your dignity? Kill that criminal in you, speak out and support those who speak up. Look through the veil of societal bounds and give dignity every chance.

This girl fought, till the end, but succumbed to the injuries she bore. She had been oblivious of the protests, but she wanted to live.

PS: Although it's a day to mourn, I wish to talk about a constructive observations. Men are coming out in numbers to support the cause. And that's precisely the reason why India doesn't need feminist movements like the ones in Saudi Arabia. What we need is to instill in the minds of the society that a be it a man, woman or a child, each one of us have an identity. Respect that!

Author's Note: Hope this movement becomes a revolution. I will do my part by lighting a candle outside my house to support the cause at 7 pm today.

Pick and choose - the tag

Shesha asked a few questions on her post The Tag. And here I am thinking a little beyond social  acceptance.

Though these questions seem simple,  I actually had to think a lot, phewww

a. "Forget and forgive" or "Remember and plot your revenge"? Situation, depends on the intent of the action, I would choose remember and plot your revenge.

b. Greatest thing that has happened to you till now?

My life, it is unique and interesting!

c. Do you really laugh/smile, when you write lol/haha/rofl on chat? 

Yes, I do. If situation doesn't permit a smirk makes way out of me.

d. Do you believe in Life after death?
I have to die to provide you with the right answer to this, as of now I live with a belief that there is no life after death.

e. Hollywood or Bollywood or any other -wood?
The dhinchak Bollywood!

f. Whom do you trust more with your secrets- Family/Friend/Stranger?
My secrets are engraved forever in a secret place.

g. Your views on Gay marriages - can you accept it in your family or in case of your son/daughter?
Yes.. I take pride in defying conventions.

h. One of the most interesting things about you?
My hair colour, it has been subject to quite a lot of public scrutiny.

i. How important is money? "Live today" or save for the "D-day"?

Live today, I try hard but fail to save.. sigh!!

j. Mind over heart or heart over mind
I cannot be harsh on my heart, therefore Heart over mind!

Now my turn... Pick one and tell me why ?

• Sushmita Sen or Aishwarya Rai Bachchan
• Salman Khan, Ranbir Kapoor or Booman Irani
• Delhi, Jaipur or Singapore
• Married, Single, Complicated or Live-In
• Swimming, horse riding or Tennis
• Gym, yoga or Judo
• Skype, Gtalk or Mobile
• SMS, BBM, Chat or Whatsapp

I blog because..

Here I go with a compilation of why do I blog perspective from fellow bloggers:

Shesha Chaturvedi

Ummmm I blog because idle mind is devil's workshop and I have so much cooking inside! I want to give other's my perspective on looking at things, then who doesn't like to show off a bit of social/technical or wtv intelligence they have. Life is all about expression, we never know how our life/or somebody else's life changes after the sharing of thoughts!

My comments: Shesha, my long lost and fairly long found kinder garden friend, and I are so connected. We have found so many similarities in the way we think and I love the way she describes her thought.

Amit Dang

its like shitting....you get the fuck out of your mind and get relaxed!
but as you know since the time i have stopped bothering about all the social and political issues going on....I'm at peace with myself...kind of stopped blogging...but will get back on this soon..with a different approach probably;)

My comments: Pheww.. I was a little taken aback with the first line, my blog these words.. Thanks Amit for mellowing it down. I liked your opinionated blog posts, and somewhere I feel that it has to come back.

Durgesh Bhardwaj

Its like opening up ur heart.. No hidden agendas.. Serving ur thoughts.

My comments: From Durgesh's philosophy to his poetry, I love it all. Please blog a little more often,  I just can't get over that Majnu and Laila's poetry

Garima Om

I blog.... sometimes to let it out what I could not discuss with others that's why most of my posts are emotional and very close to my heart, sometimes I blog to try my hand on different genre of writing like poetry, story, quotation etc...sometimes to add to different points of view floating around to give others a whole new perspective to look at a particular thing/situation...all in all it gives me immense pleasure when the writer in me is able to 'paint' the imagination of the reader with words

My comments: I love her iQuotes, she uses subtle words to convey a strong messages.


Joy K Sahoo (The Brand Spy and The Sense of Joy)

To help out the hidden aspirations come out..

My comments: We recently discovered that eating is also a sense of joy (lifting the idea from his blog URL) and I await a few insightful foodies' posts :)


And finally, it's my turn... I blog because of the varied flavors.. I blog because this is one of the best incredible things to do on the internet. Just to give you an idea, for me I blog because of the beautiful feeling that I get with it.

With each post comes a connect, a fragrance and a memory. It is such a feeling which strengthens my faith and tells me that I can fly, something that falls on my face as the rain drops while I get drenched standing faced up on the terrace, it is like a a breezy summer evening on terrace or a winter sunny afternoon rooftop peanut treat..